Martin Luther King Walked my Way

LOOK AT THEM SON – they sure know how to enjoy life more than most of us. We could learn a lot from them.” My father smiled in the rear view mirror with a look that said I should cherish that piece of wisdom. As for me, I just watched through the back windshield of our Dodge Dart as we passed block after block of shotgun houses and wondered what “those” people were really like.

The odd thing was that we weren’t really that different from them. After all, we weren’t exactly rich folks ourselves. Our little white clapboard church parsonage was nice, but would never make the pages of Southern Living. During the summer, we were just as hot as “those children”. Sure, we had an attic fan but it only served to cook us evenly on all sides. Any excuse to stay outside was a good excuse. We also ate pretty much like “those people” we had whizzed by. Beef was a rare treat and meat of any kind was only an occasional addition to our homegrown meals.

And my Daddy – that’s what we call our fathers in the south – he was no mean-spirited bigot. Considering he had been born in the Mississippi Delta in 1923 and we lived in Louisiana in the 60’s, that was no small accomplishment. The “N” word was never uttered in our house and my daddy was one of only a few local white pastors who associated with “those” people. He was a good man who never saw color when it came to a person’s needs or faith.

Trips to stay with my grandparents’ presented a stark contrast to my father’s home. Segregation was a given in my world even though I dare say many of my generation secretly wondered at the rightness of it all. How could such a quiet and measured man like my grandfather be so enraged by “those” other people? Try as I might I didn’t see anything to be feared. For all I knew, I was “those” people to the ones that marched down Capitol Street one steamy summer day in 1963.

Martin Luthher King (1963)

Martin Luther King marching in Jackson,MS (1963). One block from The King Edward Hotel, the home to my grandfather’s barber shop.

In 1963, when I was eight, a bigoted white supremacist by the name of De La Beckwith murdered Medgar Evers and Martin Luther King marched in his funeral within sight of my grandfather’s barber shop. Anger turned to sullen resignation in many a home like that of my grandparents. Martin Luther King may have walked my way, but it might as well have happened on another planet.

As with my grandfather’s anger, my grandmother’s attitude was just as mystifying. She taught me the Scriptures and no doubt believed. Still, she could say the word “Yankee” as though it was the worst curse word known to man. Carpetbaggers were demons sent by the Yankee devils to destroy our fine and advanced culture. And Scallywags – wash your mouth out with Octagon soap. She had no problem using that word my father never allowed, yet went out of her way to be kind to a woman I only knew as Sally when she came by taking up a collection for her church. She saw no contraction at all.

As a young man, I was prone to agree and disagree without being conflicted. After all, I knew black folks and they didn’t seem all that different than me. They ate collards and fat back just like we did. They ran around barefoot in the summer just like we did. And when Vietnam came along they went off and died just like our friends and brothers. But Yankees? I didn’t know any and assumed that the whole misunderstanding during the War Between the States must be their fault. Years later when Ole Miss whipped soon to be National Champion Notre Dame, I cheered. Never mind that I was an LSU fan and a mortal enemy to Ole Miss because on that day our southern brothers had fought off the Yankee hordes.

Eudora Welty, poet laureate of Mississippi wrote a short story on Medgar Evers’ death: ‘From the Unknown.” Friends advised her to be careful, to which she replied: “People who burn crosses in yards don’t read ‘The New Yorker.'”

Why do I tell you all of this? Because, as a man and a father, I came to understand the quiet power that resided in a man of purpose like my daddy. He never marched or stirred up an insurrection, but his quiet insistence that I treat all people with equal respect as creations of God stuck with me long after he died of a heart attack when I was a month short of twelve years old. It stuck with me and slowly changed me over the years.

Today I eat, worship, play, and shop with “those” people not so far from where I grew up. My neighborhood is filled with African Americans, Filipinos, Vietnamese, and yes even Yankees. Over time, many of us simply changed for the better. My father’s example had much to do with that. Did we make a lot of mistakes back then? You bet. I’m sure there will be much more on all sides. But, we can still make it our purpose in life to make whatever little difference we can with our own words and lives. Just like my father!

So how about you? Anyone out there care to admit they knew or understand the world I just described?


t.e. (Tim) George has seen and lived many stories in his life. As a freelance commercial writer, he helps clients tell the story of what they do. As a ghost writer, he helps people tell the story that matter most to them. But it is as a novelist that he writes stories for who matter most – you, the reader. Tim’s latest novella, Only Time, is available now at
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  • rhay

    Very well said Tim. I grew up in that same environment.

  • Catrina Bradley

    I grew up a few years later and a few states north and to the west. I only encountered “those people” when we went to the big city to go shopping, and then only from a distance. I didn’t know that “the N word” was bad until I learned so in school, where there weren’t any. And then I didn’t understand why there should be prejudice against a whole group people we didn’t even know. (You may have heard about the “damn yankees”, but I heard about the “dumb hicks” from the south. It’s a testimony to my overcoming that ingrained prejudice in that I married one of those dumb hicks. When I could finally understand what he was saying, I was amazed at how smart he actually was behind that ignorant-sounding accent.)

    • One reason we should not make judgments based on outward appearance. One of the deepest thinkers I have ever known was not one of my grad school professors but rather a farmer. He rode his tractor all day and listened to works most of us were glad to escape after graduation. His overalls had hay seed on them but his mind was unspotted by ignorance or unwillingness to learn .

  • Sherry C

    I was a child during the Reagan administration but it may very well have been in your generation. The N word was as common in my family as Sunday mass. I didn’t have any black friends and God forbid should anyone bring one home. In my grandfather’s house (the place I was when I wasn’t home) if you weren’t a Catholic white republican you were an imbecile. When I was sixteen I had a conversation with my grandfather that changed my life. Amid all his derogatory comments I stopped and listened and realized that for such an educated man, he was the most ignorant person I’d ever known and I realized that I had to reprogram myself. Everything I had been taught was hateful and I wanted no part of it. After he died I wanted to grieve but it took me years to understand why I couldn’t. I loved my grandfather but I still don’t miss his small mind.